As modern changemakers, activists, and leaders-in-the-making, regularly revealing our know-how and savvy at navigating shared environment is encouraged and in some spaces expected. Yet when it comes to our family, that kumbaya consciousness can quickly evaporate into clean air. As a parent in today’s world, its essential to raise our children with a deepened understanding and responsiveness of their needs, which can be very different than their wants. According to social scientists and anthro-psychologists, this kind of attentive parenting is best done by pouring all your conscious effort on the child in a calm and lovable manner; much like you do toward your urban garden and your yoga instructor. There is a saying “Today’s children… Tomorrow’s future…” A future where people have compassion, honesty and are well behaved can only be shaped now. That is why it is very to start now for a better future. Who best can do that other than the parents? So we have picked our top 5 tips to be a conscious parent.
#1 Begin by practicing a healthy routine.
Teach and train your family to follow a routine from the time they wake up, till the time they get back to sleep.
These are just the basic few and are somewhat no-brainers, yet get you an idea about the healthy routine that you can easily teach your children and follow it yourself. Ah-ha - follow yourself! You are more likely to exude that calm and zen if you are well-rested, hydrated and properly nourished. You can add meditation times and family harambee circles to inject deeper spiritual or cultural meaning into everyday activities. Also, encourage them to follow meal time, sleep time, play time and other things. This indirectly helps them learn about punctuality, self-management, time-management, and life-work-play balance as well.
#2 Create a peaceful environment.
Childhood is compared with a sponge because, just like how a sponge can accommodate water in it, children have the tendency to absorb behavior and language that they see and hear around them. That is exactly why it is really important to be and to do good things around children. Children consider their parents as a role model in their early stage. They will watch and hear what you do, so be responsive around them and not reactive. If there is a situation in front of you when your children are around, think for a while before you respond. Be compassionate around them but not naïve and give them a chance to grow mentally. This is especially important in our current social climate. The peaceful environment extends to school, outdoor play and public spaces, as well as virtual spaces (TV, social media, music). While you may want to be up on Don Lemon’s political insights, your children may not share your ability to navigate news story landscapes.
#3 Help your children develop the basic components that make a better personality.
According to the famous psychoanalyst Carl Gustav Jung the four basic components of a personality are intuition, sensation, thinking and feeling. Help your children develop these four elements in them. By doing so, you will help them take holistic approach in conjunction with the realistic one. These traits if developed well, can kindle the creativity in them. This will also help them understand an emotion the other person is going through, which in turn will teach them to value relationships. These elements when polished well throughout childhood can build a person with a better personality. Social impact, change-making and advocacy cannot exist if integrity, empathy and openmindedness are not also present at the table.
# 4: teach your children the importance of relationships.
The way this generation is turning out currently is pointing out only at broken relationships, be it marriage, friendships and relationship with relatives, these days nothing sustains. If you as a parent want things to change for a better future for your children, teach them to value relationships and teach them to take care of it.
Ensure them that if they value people around them and their relationships, at the time of pain and trouble they won’t find themselves alone but instead, they will have a strong support on whom they can rely upon. Basically, valuing relationships can only make people stronger, by doing so, this can also possibly change the mind of the other person and can force them to value relationships in return. It’s always a win-win situation when love is involved and when responsibilities are shared alongside happiness and pain.
#5:The final tip you need to practice is, you should know what to do if you child misbehaves.
Before you start parenting, try and work on your own issues first. As a parent, there is a possibility you might lose your patience because of your child’s mistake mostly because of something that has happened in your past. This could possible make you take hasty decisions and that’s exactly why you need to make peace with your past and build plenty of patience within you. Exercise empathy in conjunction so that your child can trust you and come to you for advice when they are growing up.
Here’s a bonus tip for you, advise your child when they need counsel but watch and listen to them more. Train them to take their own decisions, correction: Coach them to take their own correct decisions.
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