For most modern women, Vday is more than an Eve Ensler play. Despite public pooh-poohing of the commodification of chocolate of Valentine's Day, most of us in the privacy of our own romantic self-esteem, expect, well something. The expectation swings high or low depending our love styles (I love to be given something that is all about me and my enjoyment, like say a day at the spa or really indulgent organic soap and body lotion, or a fabulous piece of artwork) and possibly how much sexy time we are desiring and/or are getting. The usuals, flowers, a 4-course dinner or jewelry are all appreciated especially if luxe and not last-minute (no generic red roses with baby's breath please). For most modern moms, a hand-made card by our 6 year old warms the heart, but we'd be fibbing if we said receiving “l love you mommy” scribbles and watching “Be My Valentine, Charlie Brown” was enough. Or maybe not? To clarify what our VDay needs were, I summoned my posse of intelligent, mindful, stylish women/mom- friends to par-take in a SKYPE round-table chat about how VDay can bring the sexy (and sustainable) back. Personally, I am down with gooey love letters, a homemade paleo dinner including a bottle of South African Shiraz, and followed by foot massage while watching 50 Shades.
Matilda: What do you want for Valentine’s Day?
Charina: A long hot bath and a glass of wine.
Jess: With your man right?
Charina: Not necessarily.
Charina:...well, who's going to look after the kids?
Chloe: Something pretty from Naja?
Justine: A romantic dinner I don't have to cook.
Jess: But take out is ok, right?
Justine: Sure, take me out of the house for a proper dinner.
Matilda: What about gifts from the kids.
Justine: Instead of gifts from my husband?
Chloe: Treats for and from the kids are great, I mean I love it when Alex (her 4 year old daughter) draws a picture for me or gives me a pretty stone she found in the playground, but the nature of the holiday is romance.
Jess: But it's silly to say you can only have romance on this day.
Charina: Well, ideally its not just this one day, but don't we get at least one day that's about grown up love.