A woman’s girl friends are her support system. While she might have hundreds of friends on her social media network, she will always turn to her closest allies in times of need and happiness alike. They might not see each other a lot but when they do, it’s like no time has passed at all. Distance never governs how deep a woman’s friendship is with her girls, it’s all about how much they love each other.
However, at times, there may be certain poison pals in your circle, pulling you down. The type who exploits, is needy, craves attention at all times or is the party pooper of the group. The most dangerous ones are the frenemies! The ones who are actually competitors wearing the façade of your best friend. Somebody who’s high-maintenance, keeps pulling you into her pseudo-drama or just enjoys pulling you down.
With such frenemies, you can never figure out where you stand. Your emotional safety is always in danger in such a company. There is a lot of judgement, belittling and gossiping. There is also the fear of such friends using your present and past childishness, pettiness, fear, anger or insecurity against you. The genuine affection and goodwill you share with your true friends, never makes an appearance in a relationship with your frenemies. There is no protection or celebration of your success, rather you are always on your guard and wondering about the next slight or betrayal coming your way. While with your true friends you can be at your vulnerable point and still rely on them for comfort and clarity, frenemies offer no such solace. You might end up feeling used and exploited.
Remember all the times she told you that you looked fat or how your job was boring? While there isn’t any need to be mean to her, be honest. You can be kind as you cease communication. And avoid big long talks, dramatic exits and passive aggressive power trips. Talk to her directly (in case she doesn’t get your not-so-subtle hints) and tell her that you do not appreciate her insults and negativity.
Stop replying to her texts and taking her calls. She might get needy or nasty but stick to your resolve. Remove her from your social networks and block her as well. Sounds hardcore and maybe not so Namaste, and yet how can you spread happiness, clarity and consciousness if you are stuck in a dangerously toxic relationship.
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